Be a Better Father than your own.

Your family isn't perfect, neither is mine.

No such thing.

But some families function well despite their flaws.

My fam hasn't functioned at all, and has many flaws.

I've seen these flaws from a young age…

This is where the story begins.

My Imperfect Family

lack of father, separated family, poverty, single mom, new baby sister…

Theres no doubt to be many flaws.

Over my time of going back and forth from my Moms and Dads, I’ve gained 2 contradicting perspectives.

1. Go with the flow and chill (less strict)

2. Perfectionist, high expectations (very strict)

It was always difficult juggling two completely different lifestyles, but this made me see the pros of cons of each side.

Self-Reflection is Key

As I’ve grown older I’ve realised I haven't been parented optimally, I see this as an advantage, it allows me to see what to do, and what not to do when i’m a parent.

Shi got pretty rough at times due to poor parenting. Im glad ive experienced it so i can avoid it with my future kids.

I’ve taken some time recently to do some self reflection, writing down what aspects of childhood i enjoyed and what parts i didn’t. I will use this as a guide when I become a parent.

None of us have perfect families.

I know for a fact theres something your parents do, that you would never do to your kids, or something they do that you love, write it down, remember it, and apply it when you become a parent. Through this method we can get ensure we have a functioning family at the bare minimum.